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all the voices


No justice or equality movement has ever succeeded without the voices that come from the “other side.”

Christianity had the Apostle Paul. Abolitionists and the Civil Rights Movement had “white” people. The Feminist Movement had/has men. The war on poverty still needs the wealthy and transgender folks need more help from gays, lesbians and straight people.

I was a bit suspicious at first and I cannot say that I’m utterly convinced now, but I’m at least encouraged by what I hear coming from Pastor E. Dewey Smith as he continues to publicly share that he’s rethinking his theology about sexuality and faith. His conservative voice bearing witness to what liberals and progressives already know, is priceless.

pastor e dewey smith

Pastor E. Dewey Smith and congregation praying for Singer Angie Stone at House of Hope Atlanta. Image:

Last weekend he participated in a gathering at Princeton University via its Black Church Studies program, “Love Thyself: Black Bodies and Religious Space.” The gathering was inspired by the viral hashtag, #BlackChurchSex.

During the conference he said in about 4 years, some studies report that 50-55% of African American women will never get married. “Do we really expect these women to lead celibate lives?” Then he challenged that the way we currently read the bible enslaves women and reinforces a pimpish theology. Pastor Smith offered that our churches must begin to give people space to grow, think and recognize that the bible doesn’t have the answer to all our questions. WOW! How’s that for ‪#‎BlackChurchSex‬??? (as reported by a Facebook friend of mine that attended the conference)

We don’t listen to every voice. Having as many different kinds of voices as possible that can advocate a realistic message of freedom in a grounded context of faith will greatly assist the church – the Black church – in having meaningful conversations which improve our holistic health as followers of Yeshua.

(c) 2016 candi dugas, llc

dear g~d, i’m horny.

An irreverent prayer? Maybe. Maybe not.

If you think it’s irreverent, think again.

child's prayer - food

what a little girl's ("jayla") prayer might look like, asking g~d for her daddy to make for dessert the chocolate cake that she loves.

Polished? No. But certainly honest and straight from the heart, reflecting the enjoyment of one of life’s pleasures with someone she loves and cares for her.

child's prayer - play

what a little girl's ("chrissy") prayer might look like, asking g~d to help her play with her new friends 'cause they look like they're having so much fun.

Confession. “I enjoy this, but I’m scared of what they may think about me. What if they reject me? But the pull to have fun is greater than my fear. I think I can do it . . . if you come with me.”

“Jesus called over a child, whom he stood in the middle of the room, and said, ‘I’m telling you, once and for all, that unless you return to square one and start over like children, you’re not even going to get a look at the kingdom, let alone get in. Whoever becomes simple and elemental again, like this child, will rank high in God’s kingdom.'” (Matthew 18:1-5, THE MESSAGE)

The older I get the more credence I give to the philosophy that we allow ourselves to create too much distance between us and our childhood. We sell our childhood for the merit badges of responsibility, independence, and success. I know responsible children. Kids who are independent-minded. Ever read articles about successful children – know any? Most of them continue to be children alongside their achievements. Too many of us adults abandon the wonder, joy, and fulfillment of simply being who we are and being so with raw honesty – especially before G~d.

We don’t know yet that pretending before G~d is futile?

“Spirituality and sexuality are two sides of the same coin. There is no way to be physical people without being spiritual people. We have split it and been taught sexual freedom is promiscuity. While we know there are more than two parts to us, we must see and accept these two aspects working in tandem, knowing that when I worship G~d all parts of me get affected – my mind, my genitalia, my hands, my feet. When I worship, all of me shows up.” ~Dr. Willie F. G~dman, from Who Told You That You Were Naked?

We bring it all with us anyway; so, be bold in your relationship with G~d. (Hebrews 4:16) That can mean something more or something else than maybe we’ve always been taught. What can it mean for you today?

childlike prayer of an adult

what an adult-child's prayer might look like, confessing honest feeling/need to g~d.

(c) 2012 candi dugas, llc

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